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10 Suggestions To Build Strong Relationships

10 Suggestions To Build Strong Relationships

Birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day—its easy to marvel at the expense incurred on one day of expression compared to “normal” days when a sharp stick in the eye or a passing animal grunt are the normal prize. A seeming lack of consistency in handling interpersonal relationships is the norm. No amount of workshops, webinars, books, small […]

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Grieving Is A Process. Take Your Time

Grieving Is A Process. Take Your Time

I enjoyed the last days of having my mother-in-law living with me. Recently, I looked through the photos of her last days. The mischievous smile; the feisty comebacks; the pregnant, thought-provoking moments of silence in discussions; and the stories of her childhood and college years filled our days. The ER staff and doctors sent her […]

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No, You Cannot Have It All

No, You Cannot Have It All

“My friends, a mist in the pulpit creates a fog in the pews!” My thoughts trailed off as I envisioned the room being filled with fog as the preacher prattled on. As I daydreamed, ever so slowly the preacher faded from view. He was so corny, eliciting laughter as he described disastrous situations where leaders […]

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Food Is Fuel

Food Is Fuel

Hmmm good! Lemon pound cake, chocolate chip cookies, kettle chips, vanilla ice cream, and grape soda. I’m in junk food heaven and loving it!  Seriously though, I love freshly baked cookies and pound cake. I eat kettle chips with vanilla ice cream and grape soda. None of these treats have any nutritional value. The sugar […]

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He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

Can you remember the first time your body responded to the presence of a person you were attracted to? Do you remember the physical arousal? The emotional scintillation? The mental distraction? Do you remember smiling at the very thought of that person? Interestingly, these seemingly benign reactions could be signals or warning signs to keep […]

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Tell Them I Sent You

Tell Them I Sent You

As a child, I was often sent on errands. Initially, I was given a note. Once I had proven trustworthy, I was allowed to speak on behalf of the sender. The scenario would go something like this: Directions would be given outlining what I supposed to retrieve or the message I was supposed to deliver. […]

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Leaning on the Everlasting Arms

Leaning on the Everlasting Arms

I remember sitting in church with my legs dangling from the pew looking at the rather wide derriere of the lady standing in front of me. Her bouncing hips keeping time as she played the tambourine. She threw her head back as she belted out, “Yes, I’m leaning on Jesus…” My mind wandered as I […]

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Love Springs Eternal

Love Springs Eternal

March Madness As the country gears up for the collegiate basketball tournaments, life actually shifts into another gear. With the advent of Spring, new life and new prospects are on the horizon. Some think of Spring cleaning, while others think of taking a vacation. With the dawning of Spring, the tenor of relationships often change […]

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Tender Moments

Tender Moments

The morning started like any other, four different alarm clocks sounded announcing the beginning of each family member’s day. Shouts resounded through the kitchen as each announced the appointments of their day just prior to closing the door. My husband reminded me of his annual physical and our early lunch date. Dressed in his favorite […]

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