Are your relationships helping or hindering your growth?
As Springtime comes around, we often take the time to clear away the clutter and prepare our homes for warmer weather. While mostly based in tradition, the act of Spring cleaning provides an opportunity for us to take inventory of our lives. As we vigorously wash windows, donate old clothing, or spruce up our sidewalks, we realize the importance of nurturing the things that are entrusted to us. We also understand the necessity of letting go.
Just as we are stewards over our possessions, we too must reflect on the people in our lives. Our relationships have the ability to move us closer toward our destiny, or cripple our dreams.
The following are a few ways that we can “Spring clean” our relationships for greater fulfillment:
1) Clarify your vision.
Where are you going? What is the purpose that God is calling you to fulfill? The Word of God says “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:18). Having a vision for our lives gives us a focus and keeps us from making careless decisions. Having a clear goal in mind will help you make wise relationship choices. Either the people around you are supporting your vision or they’re slowing your progress.
2) Clear the clutter.
That dress you haven’t worn in two years is taking up closet space. Those tools you intended to use are collecting dust. While our intentions may be good, we tend to hold on to things that we need to let go! In addition, some things may be useful, but we’re just in a new season now. Ask yourself:
- Are my relationships drawing me to God or away from God?
- Do my relationships add value to my life or just take up unnecessary space?
- Am I holding on to a relationship that I need to release?
- Do I need to reevaluate the purpose of the relationship?
3) Communicate your needs.
The beauty of cleaning is that it provides room for more things to come our way. With a clear vision in mind, it’s easier to tell others how they benefit our lives. Relationships have the ability to produce great results in our lives (Proverbs 27:17). Seek others that will help you reach your full potential.
I recently met with a friend that mentored me when I was a teenager. I hadn’t seen her in many years. Looking back over my life, I realize that I wouldn’t be where I am today without her prayers, encouragement, and belief in my potential. Be intentional about investing in good relationships.
4) Check your progress.
The dust will gather again, if we don’t keep up with it. Similarly, we need to evaluate if our relationship decisions are effective. Every several months we can ask:
- How are my relationships going?
- Are there others I need to seek out for mentoring?
- Is there something that I need to change about me?
- What could make the relationship more fulfilling?
God has called us to be in relationship with Himself and others! How will you Spring clean your relationships today?