Married love is a funny thing. Built on a foundation of respect, honesty, commitment, and genuine friendship, it has to be nurtured, protected, developed, and honored. It’s almost like a child in a way – you give birth to it when you walk down the aisle. Then in the first few years of teaching it to “walk” or “work,” there are bumps and bruises as you get a feel for it. Finally, the cruising begins and you’re on your way…to more lessons, bumps and bruises, failures, and triumphs. Yet through it all, you have each other.
And while many in today’s society view marriage as antiquated, unnecessary, or even unrealistic (despite scores of happily married couples who beg to differ), those of us who are married know how joyful, fulfilling, and secure it can be. That’s why it’s so important to work to keep your marriage happy and healthy. I want to do something a little different today. Instead of telling you ways to keep your marriage spark alive, I want to help you understand the reason it is so crucial – and what can happen if you choose to let the flame extinguish.
You can miss an opportunity to experience a beautiful, God-created institution.
Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all . . . “ (ESV). Marriage is the institution designed for us to be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth. However we are also meant to enjoy it! It’s good and wonderful in our sight!
You can lose valuable opportunities for personal growth and development.
How many times in my 13 years of marriage have I wanted my own way, to do exactly as I felt like, spend money as I desired, or simply do nothing at all? PLENTY. But when you’re married, it’s not just about you. You don’t get to be selfish, petty, or have a pity party. Being lazy, bossy, or manipulative doesn’t work too well either. Instead, you learn how to share, give of yourself, sacrifice for someone else’s greater good, and generally become a better person. Positive growth is a benefit of marriage.
You can miss the sheer joy of companionship and comfort.
Teddy Pendergrass sang, “it’s so good loving somebody and somebody loves you back.” And that’s a fact. It’s a wonderful feeling to be loved and cherished in a strong, healthy marriage. It’s great to enjoy activities and times of fun with your best friend. It’s an amazing thing to make memories that last a lifetime. You are afforded that privilege in marriage.
To say I’m a big proponent of Godly marriage between a man and a woman is an understatement. I believe that when done right, there’s no place else you’d rather be. And that’s a fact.