Can You Do It Standing Up? Avoiding Premarital Sex

It is absolutely amazing how many people strategically utilize sex to attract attention from those they have an interest in. Not only in the world, but within the four walls of today’s churches. When it comes to the topic of premarital sex, our churches need to be more proactive in addressing the subject.

That’s why I am so passionate about the Can You ‘Do It’ Standing Up? message I share with singles. I have had my share of sexual experiences and often chuckle at the various attempts women use to temporarily shift my focus. Why? Because I understand that physical fulfillment comes a dime a dozen. The question I now pose in response to sly sexual advances is “Can You ‘Do It’ Standing Up?” I challenge you to pose the same question to those who try to sexually persuade you.

With the increase of sexually charged messages our world is sharing, we need more ministries to stand bold in maintaining the sexual integrity God calls us to in His Word.

Can You ‘Do It’ Standing Up?

What do I mean by ‘doing it’ standing up? The reality is there are men and women in almost every walk of life capable of bringing you happiness lying down. Each of us who has had a positive sexual experience can submit personal stories to support this. However, sex alone doesn’t make for successful relationships. How many times must you go through the same test where you figure out the person you are dating is ill-equipped to satisfy you standing up only after having given yourself to him/her sexually?

Your focus should now center on following God and connecting with the man/woman who brings you happiness without the sexual element. Stop allowing yourself to remain in emotional bondage to relationships that hinge on sessions of physical intimacy with a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Next time you are propositioned, ask if he or she can ‘do it’ standing up? After you are met with a perplexed expression, provide these ‘standing up’ examples:

  1. Can s/he demonstrate a love for God?
  2. Can s/he show the love of God in their interaction with others? (Matthew 25:35-40)
  3. Can s/he offer godly counsel to you as a friend? (Psalm 1:1)
  4. Can s/he forgive those from their past? (Matthew 18:21-35)
  5. Can s/he show support for the things that are important to you?
  6. Can s/he show the ability to resolve conflict?
  7. Can s/he produce a vision for the future?

‘Do It’ Standing: Up Point of Application

‘Doing it’ standing up has far greater impact on your purpose in life. Two satisfied, emotionally healthy people coming together with purpose are much more powerful than two individuals who are solely looking to fill a physical or emotional void. This means you have to find happiness and purpose in your singleness in order to bring value into a marital relationship. Don’t allow a temporary sexual release to blind your ability to make good, sound life decisions. If you keep doing the same thing over and over, you’ll continue getting the same results!

Here are a few scriptures to assist you through the process:

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. (I Corinthians 6:18-20)

Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. (I Corinthians 7:1-2)

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality, that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable,not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God… (I Thessalonians 4:3-5)

Apply these Scriptures to your life and prove that you can truly, “do it standing up”!

Kenny Pugh

Kenny Pugh is an entrepreneur, author, radio show host and sought-after speaker on singleness, relationships, business and money. Kenny is the host of the Chat Kafe Show ( and is a frequent guest on various radio broadcasts. He is also the author of Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships (

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