My testimony: While in college, doctors told me I wouldn’t be able to have any children. I was devastated then, but years later, there I was getting ready for baby number two! God is amazingly GOOD!
William and I decided that we didn’t want to know the gender, we wanted to keep it a surprise. As much as I love doing events, I had no idea how to visualize a gender neutral shower. Needless to say, my shower was EVERYTHING I wanted it to be and more! My vision grew hands and feet with my sister, Latasha, at the helm and we had a BLAST putting it together!
When Latasha picked my brain about what I wanted, I told her I wanted it to be modern, sophisticated, and glam! I had three requirements of her:
- I wanted a black, white, and gold color palette.
- It had to be under the stars.
- It needed to be fun!
Due to the fact that I decided to wait to find out the gender of the baby, we decided to spin a traditional nursery rhyme and make it our theme: “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star ‘How We Wonder What You Are.’” I wanted a very modern and clean aesthetic with touches of gold. When I plan parties with Latasha, we almost always have a dress code and my shower kept to that tradition! Everyone was asked to wear a little black dress for the ladies, and black everything for the men.
We wanted to make sure every activity and every game had a significance. We didn’t want our guests to play traditional games, so Latasha created some fun activities for everyone to enjoy.
When sending out the invitation, every guest was given a letter of the alphabet. They were asked to customize this letter with special papers, materials, or a note, so that the alphabet could be used to create an Alphabet Wall in the nursery. Each alphabet would then have a special meaning and would be from the heart of all of the people invited to participate in this celebration. Traditional to many showers, we also had a diaper raffle and any guest who brought diapers to the shower would be entered into a special drawing to receive a prize.
We had a few special games that turned the shower into a gender-guessing party as well! As guest participated in the activities, they were able to choose a glass filled with sparkling cider, that also had the different “due dates” – that served as their guess for when they thought the baby would arrive.
During the shower, my worship Pastor Jeri (who opened her home for the party) served my guests with so much love. Each guest also had the opportunity to leave messages on a onesie for the baby to wear at his or her first photo shoot. Guests wrote well wishes and hopes for the future, messages in birthday cards for each birthday, and words of encouragement that could be put in the baby’s first album!
We also did a Blessing Tree by tying strings so they would hang from a large tree in the backyard. Guests were able to go to that tree and write messages for both mom, dad, baby, and also for the baby’s big sister, Lyric, to encourage and build her up as she prepared for her big role!
Some of the most inspiring and entertaining moments of the night included guests breaking up into teams and coming up with songs about the new baby to the tune of “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.” It was both highly entertaining and incredibly special to hear so many beautiful and creative words spoken about this baby who had already rocked the world and hadn’t even arrived!
The night closed out with my good friend, Lawanda Dickerson, encouraging each guest to share their heart about me and my family around the banquet table. It was truly beautiful as the glow of the moon, the light of the candles on the table, and the stars gave us the perfect setting for this magical moment. Lyric was allowed one special guest to dine with and their tablescape was perfection!
Many guests shared their heart about us and what we meant to them. I will never forget how special this was to us! The entire table was filled with tears of joy, laughter, and huge smiles! The night was incredibly beautiful! Every idea and detail–the lush lounge, the custom cake, our handmade invitations, down to the stars on the cupcakes–were absolutely amazing. It was one of the most lush, stylish, and meaningful evenings of my life! My little girl was loved so much even before she arrived! Now that she’s here, we no longer have to “wonder” what she is. My Honour Smile is just like that evening…perfect.
Photography: Isaiah Haynes for Ike and Tash Photography and Motion