Going back to school on any level can be very challenging. Especially when your friends, coaches, teachers, and teammates may be pulling you in different directions. I’ve found out in these circumstances that sometimes the most rewarding word to use is “NO.” Although short in length, using the word “NO” in the right circumstances speaks volumes about you and your character.
Before making any decisions as a student–or an adult for that matter–you should try gauging your response based off of these five things.
1) Would your Parents be comfortable with your decision? If you’re out of the home, would God be in agreement with your decision?
Where there is no counsel, purposes are disappointed; but in the multitude of counselors they are established. (Proverbs 15:22)
2) What does the Bible Say about my decision?
Jesus knows us better than we know ourselves, so it’s best that we check in with him first concerning our dos and don’ts. No one else can give us better wisdom concerning what we should do than Jesus. The Word of God tells us in Matthew 6:33 to “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
3) Would your family agree?
If you’re an adult and or you’re out of the home, this doesn’t apply as much to you. But could be very helpful for some major decisions.
Although I don’t have to, I still seek the advice of my family regarding major decisions. The reason being, they may see a different perspective than me. If you’re a student, it’s very important to see what your family has to say regarding the matter. It also keeps you accountable and on course with your family core values.
A family is a place where principles are hammered and honed on the anvil of everyday living. (Charles R Swindoll)
4) Does it make sense?
Sometimes you just have to stop and ask yourself “Does this even make sense?” When making decisions you need to determine what you desire to accomplish. If the outcome is not beneficial for you and may jeopardize your character, don’t hesitate in saying “NO!”
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. (Proverbs 12:15)
5) What will the fruit look like?
I know that may sound like a weird question to ask, but the Bible teaches us in Matthew 7:16-20,
You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes, nor figs from thistles, are they? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit; but the bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. So then, you will know them by their fruits.
Think of it this way: every decision you make will bear fruit. What will the fruit of your decisions look like? The quality of your destiny can be found in the quality of your decisions. If you pray about your decisions and apply these five principles, you will not be dissatisfied with the fruit you see from them.