To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
I knew this Bible verse, along with the subsequent verses in that chapter, signaled the inevitability of seasons and change. What I didn’t know – and none of us really know – is how that change would affect me and how I’d come through it.
I’m on the precipice of a season of change. I’ve always taken the time to teach things to my children. However, I’ve never actually been their “teacher.” This new voyage into homeschooling is foreign to me. I’m excited, but also a bit unsure. As I charter new waters, I am working to make sense of the myriad of emotions and keep the proper focus. I’ve taken steps to keep the process in balance:
1. First, I research the new phase as much as possible.
It’s like a job to me. I’m finding every book, googling and reading into an abundance of forums, and immersing myself in conferences to uncover information. This step is pivotal. Change can already be scary enough. Some preparation can at least make you feel like you’re on stable ground and you won’t be destroyed because of lack of knowledge before you’ve even begun (Hosea 4:6).
2. Next, I recognize my human limitations and fears.
It’s important to be realistic about your strengths and weaknesses. Recognize what may scare or stifle you. I didn’t say to allow any of these things to control you. However, if you don’t know the areas in which you’re lacking, you won’t know to seek help. If you refuse to acknowledge any fears, then you’re also refusing to see God work in you and through you. Give Him glory for helping you to persevere in spite of your fears.
3. Finally, I do something that has taken me years to do.
I embrace the unknown. I’m the type of person who wants to know every single detail and how it will all play out BEFORE getting started. That’s not even realistic, but I digress. I like organization and structure, for things to be well-planned and well-executed. Nothing wrong with that, but life doesn’t always happen that way. Rather than stressing or obsessing about what I don’t know, I do all I can do in my own strength. Afterwards, I embrace the adventure of what’s to come. I know that God has prepared me for whatever lies ahead. He gives me the grace and wisdom to make it all work.
How are you finding balance in the seasons of your life?