Publisher’s Note: As we consider 40 Days of Change, one thing you may have to “change” is the people you spend the most time around. Check out this post from Desiree Mondesir
Toxic people are everywhere: in our homes, churches, jobs, and more. And although they may parade as loved ones and spiritual advisors, they are absolutely detrimental to your well-being. They must be identified so they can be dealt with accordingly.
Those of Ill Repute
David said, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners, nor sits in the seat of the scornful,” (Psalms 1:1). Unless you’re ministering to these people, you have no business hanging out with them. Doing so will only associate you with their bad habits.
Those Who do not Believe in You
Joseph was surrounded by brothers who despised him and refused to believe in his God-given dreams. However, Joseph would one day become their salvation. Yet, without a separation, he would never have been exalted. Your destiny is dependant upon your separation from toxic people.
Those That are Unequally Yoked in Friendship
These are the people you have a one-sided relationship with. You do all the work to maintain it. You may also have one-sided conversations which could either mean that they don’t trust you or that they only want juicy gossip. Either way, this should be addressed. Carrying a relationship by yourself happens at times; however, it should not be a constant.
Those Who Give Ungodly Advice
These are the people whose advice never seems to line up with the Word of God. They are toxic as well. If someone’s advice doesn’t line up with God’s Word, then it is not from Him. Solomon’s son, Rehoboam, implemented ungodly counsel and it cost him 11 tribes of Israel (I Kings 12:3-20).
Those That Control You
In Revelation, Jesus spoke to the Church of Thyatira saying, “Nevertheless I have a few things against you, because you allow that woman Jezebel to teach and seduce My servants” (Revelations 2:20). Jezebel represents the spirit of manipulation manifested through anyone who seeks to control your life. She will never stop until you are completely under her control. She has to go.
While some people can be reasoned with or responded to differently, most need to be released. God has too much in store for you to be destroyed by toxic people. Kierra Sheard’s new song says, “You can be free from bondage…and full of joy. Be free!” Free yourself from toxic people in 2012 and watch God move!