How Should Christian Singles Date?

What\’s the “real deal” regarding Christian Singles? We asked various singles ministry leaders…here\’s what they said…

Basic Steps


I would say the first and most important step would be to have someone whom you are accountable. As a Christian, there must be someone you can call and say who you are with and what your plans are. This must be someone you trust, but more importantly. someone who lives according to the word of God and who will be honest with you.

Secondly, you must be honest with yourself in regards to your weaknesses. If you cannot trust that you can go out on a date alone without compromising your walk with Christ then you should not. You may not be ready for dating. There are many who do group dating, but many do not believe that you can really get a sense of who a person is, or spend quality time being in a group. Seeking God first will be the guide

Should Christians Date non-Christians?

No. Some Christian women (more than Christian men) date outside of their faith. Many have said that they are praying that he converts, and opens his heart to Christ. They call this “missionary” dating, but I don\’t believe that this is a good practice.

The word says “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14)

What about sex? Is there an idea of “everybody’s doing it”?

I don\’t believe that the idea of “everybody’s doing it” is out there, but we do know that it is happening in large numbers.

When you make a conscious choice to live by the word of God you have the instructions of why you shouldn’t.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 warns us, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God.”

Corinthians 6:13b, 18 tells us, “Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without (outside) the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.” The word is true and it is always right. It is up to the individual to be obedient or not. Your choice does not change the word.