What is the most critical component of living out a satisfying and meaningful marriage is a correct understanding of God\’s intention for marriage. Marriage is a covenantal union designed to strengthen the capability of each partner to carry out the plan of God in their lives.
Marriages today are deteriorating at such a high rate not because we no longer get along, but because we have lost sight of the purpose and prosperity of the marriage covenant. Marriages are collapsing because partners have come to a place where the reality they live in looms far from what they had once dreamt or hoped for… And many are getting out of marriage almost as quickly as they got into it.
For far too many people, the subject of marriage is like a three-ring circus. First, there is the engagement ring. Next, comes the wedding ring. Then, there is suffering!
One lady said that she got married because she was looking for the ideal but it quickly turned into an ordeal, and now she wants a new deal. One man said that he and his wife were happy for twenty years… And then they got married.
We laugh, but these kinds of feelings are far too pervasive in marriages today… Perhaps even yours. And they can lead to a crack in your relationship with your spouse that can push you dangerously close to a breaking point.
That\’s dangerous because the breakup of a marriage these days doesn\’t seem to carry the same gravity that it did in the past. So-called â€œno-faultâ€ divorces offer the option of an â€œamicableâ€ split, which has led to the ending of many marriages without even a hint of remorse.
It reminds me of a guy who went to the super bowl. The stadium was packed, but the seat next to him sat empty. The man behind him questioned him about the empty seat. He answered, â€œThat seat was for my wife. She would have been here, but she died.â€
The other man offered his condolences and asked him if he didn\’t have a friend that he could have asked to come with him rather than let the seat remain empty. The man replied, â€œI do, but all my friends said they wanted to go to the funeral instead.â€
Now, I realize I\’m making light of a weighty subject, but I\’m doing so to illustrate how the seriousness of the wedding vows no longer seems to be honored. Statistics remind us what we already know, either from personal experience or from our friends, which over 50 percent of all marriages will end in divorce. Over half of every promise made that â€œuntil death do us partâ€ gets broken!